Hi friends! Here’s a quick update on our tshirt fundraiser…
This past Friday our shirt fundraiser was at 47 shirts. I put out this video on Facebook and Instagram celebrating only being 3 shirts away from 50 and getting funded. Please enjoy my rap at the end.
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I warned everyone that if we hit 50 shirts on Friday that I would dance.
Within about 45 minutes after my promise to dance we hit 53 shirts! You people, you AMAZE me!
So I did this dance…
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Our total so far?
We’ve sold 61 shirts!
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! To everyone who has bought a shirt! You have no idea what it means to us.
Our new goal is to raise $2000! We need to sell 50 more shirts to make that happen. And you know what?! I think we can make that happen!! Don’t you?
And if we sell 50 more shirts I will do an even more epic dance than my first 50 shirts dance. You want to see that, right?
If you’d like to buy one, just go to this link.
The number 1 question Aaron and I have been asked since our big adoption announcement is “When do you get a baby?”
The question is usually asked something like this:
Person: (Hoping not to offend) So. When…um…do you get…you know…how long does…before you…when the baby…you know…you adopt…and then the baby…how does….
Me: (Using my telepathic powers) How long before we have a baby?
Person: (Relieved) Yes.
I’m perfectly fine with this question since the general population isn’t familiar with the adoption process. I don’t find it offensive. I have a teaching heart and I’m happy to explain the process to them and where we are in the process.
The first thing to realize is…
I don’t know the answer to this question. No one does.
The only thing I know is that I am in control of what I can do (i.e.: fill out paperwork) and I’m going to do my best not to worry about the God-details that only He can pull together. Does that seem like a vague answer? It’s all I’ve got.
If you’re a list-maker like we are, I’m going to lay out a very basic list of the step-by-step process we’re going through. I think a list helps to get a visual of beginning to end.
1) Attend the agency’s orientation.
2) Complete pre-application.
3) Attend pre-adoption counseling session.
4) Fill out paperwork. This includes physicals, TB tests, comfort level form, fingerprints, background checks, reference letters, financial history, home floor plans, budget sheets, a 1 page letter to the birth mother, and individual 5 page autobiographies along with a family scrapbook.
6) Approval to be put on waiting list.
7) Match meeting. A meeting with the birth mother who picked you to potentially be the parents of her child.
8) Placement. The day you sign adoptive placement paperwork and a child is placed in your home.
9) Finalization. After 6 months of supervision you hire an attorney and go to court to officially and legally finalize your adoption.
We are at the end of step 4. The amount of paperwork is a beast. No complaints, it’s just a lot of information to gather that takes time and searching. Plus, a few of those forms aren’t just filling out facts. They ask questions that take serious thought and prayer. For example, the comfort level form is the form where you let the agency know what child you would be “comfortable” parenting. That sounds so insensitive, but it’s one of those “we need to be honest with ourselves” decisions, rather than “I just want to love and parent any kid because I’m making an emotional decision” kind of things. I don’t mean to sound insensitive, but these are the kinds of questions you have to answer when you adopt. The form was fairly easy for us to fill out because we’ve spent all year talking and praying about it. So once we sat down with our agency’s form, it was’t a huge surprise.
We’re turning in our paperwork this week to hopefully get our home study scheduled soon. And honestly, I’m a little excited about the home study. This is weird, guys. But our agency has really put us at ease. We jived with our agency immediately and at one meeting I was just chatting away. I realized it and asked, “Do you need to know all this now?” And she politely goes, “Well, you can tell me now but I’m just going to ask you the same stuff during the homestudy so it’s up to you if you want to tell me twice.” It cracked me up. So if talking about the things I’m comfortable talking about in a normal setting is what this is all about, then I think that’s a good sign.
Then we finish our home study and get approved and get on a waiting list to be placed in front of birth mothers that make a good match with us.
So the answer to “When will you have a baby?”…it could be the second our home study is approved or it could be longer. We don’t know.
But we do know God is in control. And although I would love this to be a quick and speedy process, I know that God has that perfect child (or children) ready to be a part of our family when they’re supposed to be.