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Waiting for Grace: Our Family Rules

I was sitting at my desk at work when I heard Adam say, “Hey, come take a look at this.”

I rolled my chair around the corner to see what he wanted me to look at on his computer. On the screen was a sign that his wife, Kacie, had made for their house. A “Family Rules” sign she made out of pallets, painted, and hung on the wall in their morning room. “Kacie finished our sign and it’s up on the wall.”

It was an idea that Kacie had found on Pinterest and worked on for several weeks to complete. It was so perfect for them and every one of the rules were ones that their family lived by. I imagined them pointing at the sign for their son Caden and daughter Kennedy to remind them of the things that are most important to their family.

“I love that!” I said. “I’d love to make one for us but we don’t have any kids yet.”

“So.” said Adam. “Who cares. Make one anyway.”

I have no idea why before he stated the obvious, that I had restricted this DIY adventure because I thought it would only apply to Aaron and I in the here and now. As a matter of fact, it didn’t matter whether or not we have kids right now 1) Because Aaron and I are, indeed, a family and 2) Because we will have kids someday.

The only thought I had in my head when I first saw Adam and Kacie’s “Family Rules” sign was, “I can’t wait until we have kids so I can make one for us.” That’s crazy! Why couldn’t I make one now? At the time, I could only imagine our son or daughter memorizing the “rules” we have made for our family and reminding them daily, “We are thankful” or “You have a purpose” or “Show that person that they are loved.” I only associated having this tangible sign with having kids, as if it were a reminder for just them. However, Aaron and I need these reminders too.

For about a week or two I processed this in my head thinking and sprinting toward the idea of actually making a “Family Rules” sign for our own house. It was a Sunday and Aaron and I were on our way home from church. The radio was on, and while Aaron was talking, the immediacy to make our sign overcame me. We were two exits away from the closest Home Depot. I interrupted him in the middle of his story, “Hey. Sorry to interrupt. Remember Adam and Kacie’s sign? I want to make one. Can we stop by Home Depot to get some wood?”

Always reluctant when I suggest any project that involves money, he only hesitated for a split second and responded, “Yes.” We went into Home Depot and spent $25 on supplies then headed home and I immediately began working.

We had talked about the different rules we’d like to have on our sign; Not only were we thinking about he and I as a family now, we thought about how we wanted to raise our kids. What characteristics and traits did we want to instill in our children? What did we want to shape in ourselves to be an example to our babies? Creating these rules to live by was a very important task for us. We want this to be the center of our home and the core of our family…our children.

Every time I see this sign and remember these rules that really are so important for us to follow, I think of my children. I think of how being those things now will shape me into the parent I need to be and will help me be an example to my children.

I’m so glad I ignored my initial excuse for not making this piece of art that is now my favorite item in our home. For me, this sign is an act of faith. It’s saying, “This is who I’m working toward becoming so I can lead the family I know I will have someday.” It’s envisioning the day that I know will come where I’m able to teach my kids about each one of these rules that Aaron and I so carefully chose to help guide them into the people they’ll become. Seeing this sign is saying, “Thank you, God. Thank you for this journey. Thank you for our family…Thank you for our children.”

Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. – Hebrews 11:1

This post talks about the Family Rules sign I made for our home. I previously wrote a DIY post showing photos of the sign as well as a description as to how I made it. You can find that post {HERE}.


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