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The Introverted Rogue


This is a post for the introverts.

If you’re an extrovert reading this, I’ve got nothing for ya. But feel free to stick around to learn about your fellow introverts.

I’m an all-around introvert. If you don’t know what that really means I’ll tell you what it doesn’t mean. It doesn’t mean I’m shy. It doesn’t mean I hate people. What it does mean is that I gain my energy from within myself (sound hippie, much?) rather than you extroverts who gain energy from the things outside of yourselves. Which, bless you, I can’t empathize with one single bit.

I love being in a crowd – for a limited amount of time until my energy is drained and I need get alone to recharge.

As a matter of fact, when Aaron and I come home from a social event we’ve established that I get my alone time in order for me to recharge. No conversation, no replay of the night’s events until I’ve had my time – Alone. In a room. By myself. I need it or I can’t function.

Do you see me staring at you from across the room with my brow furrowed? That’s not me thinking that you’re a disgusting human being. I probably don’t even notice that you’re there. I’m just contemplating the meaning of life, lost in my thoughts.

Sometimes I wonder how I’m able to face the world every day with the little amount of energy I have to give it.

But I manage.

How do I manage?

Even though I might consider myself a rogue, I’m an introvert. For some reason, in my mind, rogues are extroverts – fearlessly facing obstacles, forging their own path, setting goals and completing them – all with energy left over at the end of the day to party hardy with a crowd of acquaintances making small talk.

Bless you, extroverts. I’m drained just from typing that.

I know that’s a generalized assumption about rogues and completely not fair to either group. But introverts, can you feel me?

I’m a sensitive soul, weighed down by a lot of negativity in the world if I let it. I manage by filtering out the crap. In the last post I talked about criticism. I’ve learned not to care too much about what people think about me because I know not everyone is going to like me. I just try to be the best person I can. I don’t watch or read the news because it’s too sad. I keep my circle to a small group of trusted friends who can (and like to) dive into deep, thoughtful conversation. I stay away from drama, I don’t hold grudges, and I forgive easily. I try to set boundaries. And I drink a lot of coffee, listen to a lot of good music, journal all the feelings, and drive with my windows down when the weather’s nice.

Essentially, I guard my heart and my mind very closely and look for the things that inspire me. By doing those things, it helps me gain my introverted energy back so I’m able to try and stay on track toward the rogue goals I’ve set for myself.

So tell me introverts, how do you protect yourself and what do you do to recharge in order to keep going toward your rogue dreams?


  • Kasey - I’m loving the daily blogging. Almost no time for commenting, but am reading. ReplyCancel

  • Chandra Hadfield - From a fellow introvert, this is so good (and true). I also need a lot of down time after events. I like “friend time”, but I love “me time.” Now that both of my kids are in school, I really enjoy the quiet house each morning. No tv, no music, just plain quiet. It helps me recharge and refocus.

    So glad I found your blog today through 31 days. I’m also from the Houston area (between downtown and Galveston). Blessings!ReplyCancel

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